Last week I wrote an article about how to manage anxiety and be more present. And what called my attention was that on the following comments one single question brought up a humble but really accurate doubt: -“When do I know it’s time to ask for help?” My answer to that question was exactly this:
(It’s time to ask for help) when you feel powerless; when you don’t wanna socialize; when you realize your life is stuck and you can’t find a way to get out of that stage; when you don’t appreciate the things you use to enjoy; when you can’t control your thoughts; when you can only find reasons to complain; or when life is just boring. Everybody feels like this once in a while, but it’s important to acknowledge when these feelings occur and for how long do they last. Asking for help or better saying looking for a professional support always give us a new perspective; and sometimes just by having somebody focused on listening to us that encourage us to let out our problems can help us see that there are many other possibilities, in other words – verbalizing helps us listen to our own thoughts, our self talk and the concepts and beliefs that sometimes need to be changed.
The second question that is implicit here is “How do I know when I need a teraphyst or a Life Coach?” A teraphyst will always look for the past occurrences and will try to find its roots to allow the client to get in touch with his/her own feelings, and through that the teraphyst will be able to guide the patient to a new understanding. A coach will help the client see his/her life the way it is in the present moment, and this is gonna be the kick off to help the client visualize the big picture. Then the client will define the areas to be focused during the program and set the related goals. So in a few words we can say that coaching is directed to visualize and understand the present moment to help the clients set and accomplish their future goals.
For example, let’s say you have a business you’ve been putting all your energy on but it doesn’t seem to grow; let’s say you have a relationship where the other person seems aloof to your presence; or maybe you’re just having problems to be understood by your peers. A coach can really help you find the balance you need to improve your life whether it’s a weight loss; increasing your energy; working on your self-esteem or even discovering a new ability, a new career, or the way I like to call it – your talent. There are many techniques and each professional designs his/her session based on his previous studies, references and professional experiences. Particularly I prefer to set the whole program in 12 sessions, and if the client decides to continue working after the program ends in order to find balance and fulfillment in diverse areas other than the ones previously agreed on the first coaching session, it’s up to him/her.
It’s always important to acknowledge that the client sets the pace for each session and he/she is totally accountable for their own gains; which means that to get the most of every session the client must be willing to commit to the program and do his/her homework everyday. The old saying fist perfectly here: “If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.” Now instead of keep staring at your neighbor’s grass, schedule a free session today and let me guide you towards your goals. You may not need a big change in your life, but for sure there must be a few potentialities eager to be unlocked or a dream to be fulfilled. Hands on!