Anxiety x Mindfulness

mindfulness

Recently I’ve been noticing that the word “anxiety” and “anxious” have been permeating most of the conversations I’ve been participating. For some people anxiety reveals itself as a form of unconformity or discomfort when something doesn’t happen as expected. Some people feel tired or sleepy, others feel their heart beat faster, some people feel shaky, others feel hungry, thirsty, agitated, confused and some even start feeling pain on their bodies, not to mention migraine, stomachache, dizziness and nausea. In other words, this is the message that our body send to us telling (or sometimes yelling) that something is not going well and needs to be changed.

Anxiety has been considered the 21st century’s disorder. But why do we feel anxious? In the holistic medicine the root of anxiety lies on the feeling of fear. And the foundation of fear, in this matter, would be basically not being in the moment. If you stop everything that you’re doing right now and just breathe  – inhale counting till 4 and exhale counting till 6. Stay still and be grateful for the air you can breathe; be grateful for having a place to live, that you have something to eat… How does it feel? When we are in the moment we realize that we have more things to be grateful for than to complain about; we acknowledge our power to change the situations, and realize we’re able to find solutions, be creative and more opened for new answers and insights.

I really have to say something here – I’ve been hearing people say that they feel more creative and in the moment when they smoke weed, that they can think differently (of course, you’re high!). Excuse me, if you smoke weed everyday there’s no difference between taking a prescribed drug or getting drunk. Are you trying to fix a problem getting a new one? And by prescribed drug I mean opioids and all kinds of pain killers. This way you’re not mindful, you just found another way to scape reality, numb your feelings and don’t grow. With this have been said, we can’t change the past – our choices, actions and its consequences, but we can make amends with it and let it go.

One thing we can absolutely do, and it’s in our hands, is called the present moment. It doesn’t matter what kind of problem you’re facing right now, you can always change your outcomes. Imagine if a friend of yours call you telling the same story you’ve been complaining about; what would you say to your friend? What would be your advise for him or her? You can also start with a “to do” list of things that are doable. It doesn’t really matter how you’re gonna start, as long you start breaking your mental patterns right now and take action.

And if you realize you can’t do it alone, it’s perfectly ok to ask for help. I would start talking to a friend, or even looking for a group (I love the codependents anonymous); you can also go to a church, buy some books, call a therapist or a life coach. It doesn’t matter where or how; start right now!

The reality that sometimes hurts us and is heavy to carry on is actually the path to bring awareness and build a strong bridge to happiness and success. Nobody grows without taking responsibility over their own choices. So stop blaming on others (God and parents included); stop complaining, stop bothering; grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down the answer for the following questions:

What can you do today to start changing your life? (Write as many answers you can; don’t think too much, it can be anything)

Whenever you finish that list, go to the next question:

What is gonna be the next step?

You can come up with 10 different answers, choose one that is doable today, then follow through. Make another list tomorrow. I’m sure you can do it. You’re accountable for your own life. You are your own best friend; treat yourself with love and respect and start changing your life now. In the end of the day you’ll be truly grateful for dominating  your anxieties and fighting your own fears, and then you’ll be able to help the people around you. Wanna bet?

9 thoughts on “Anxiety x Mindfulness

    • talentlifecoaching says:

      Thank you for sharing with us your way to deal with anxiety. And I totally support your method; sometimes just by going out of home, enjoying the sun light, breathing, stretching, and being completely grateful give us a feeling of fulfillment or peace. Keep it up with the good job, Jaq!

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  1. Pedro Brandão says:

    First off all, I have to say that I love everything you write!!! congrats…
    I agree, and I also would put together do exercises, I mean gym, sports, whatever….helps a lot….in a lot of ways…mind and body….
    Just one question: when you say “And if you realize you can’t do it alone”…how do I know this? I mean, how do I know I can’t??? When is time to ask for help??
    Thanks again for your words! XXX

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    • talentlifecoaching says:

      Hi Pedro! I thank you for your comment. And you are completely right – working out is one of the best ways to balance mind and body. It cleanses our energy, activates our blood circulation, and brings us to the present moment. Now answering your question – one of the ways to discover when it’s time to ask for help is when you feel powerless; when you don’t wanna socialize; when you realize that your life is stuck and you can’t find a way to get out of that stage; when you don’t appreciate the things you use to enjoy; when you can’t control your thoughts; when you can only find reasons to complain; or when life is just boring. Everybody feels like this once in a while, but it’s important to acknowledge when these feelings occur and for how long do they last. Asking for help or better saying looking for a professional support always gives us a new perspective; and sometimes just by having somebody focused on listening to us that encourage us to let out our problems can help us see that there are many other possibilities, in other words – verbalizing helps us listen to our own thoughts, our self talk and the concepts and beliefs that sometimes need to be changed.

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  2. Roberta Cortat says:

    I love your words, Natalie! Thanks for sharing these ideas with us!
    I can feel that sometimes anxiety takes over my body. And I feel just lost, with so many emotions inside of me. I am learning now with the help of my life coaching that breathe makes me feel calm and put all my feelings and thoughts in order. That really works for me!

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    • talentlifecoaching says:

      Hi Roberta! You’re very welcome. Ya anxiety is a natural response for many feelings, but just by being able to recognize when you’re feeling anxious is a great accomplishment. The next step is finding your own solutions to release that symptom. Breathing is one of the best ways to regain control over our emotions and our thoughts. But like Pedro and Jaqueline commented above, by working out, meditating, practicing yoga, in other words, moving our body it’s a great way to lower the effects of anxiety in a long term. Another thing that we can do is eating healthy and controlling the consumption of alcohol, sugar and caffeine. I know it sounds too much to do, but like everything in life it’s just a matter of finding a good balance between old and new habits and discover what works best for YOU. S2

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  3. Claudia says:

    Thanks a lot for sharing all of your words. They made my heart and mind stop for a while and pay attention.
    Always good to know that we have guidance :)

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    • talentlifecoaching says:

      Hi Claudia! Thank you for for your comment. I might say I miss our coaching sessions – besides watching you blossoming, your energy and commitment were the best payment I’ve ever had. Keep it up with the good work.

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